Fear of Rejection and Signs of Cheating In Relationships
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I see a lot of people in constant fear of being cheated in relationships. They tend to be jealous and possessive, very difficult to be with because they can’t let go and trust, but above all, they are unhappy and insecure because they actually fear of rejection.
If you find yourself looking for signs of cheating in your partner, if you read articles that promise you magic formula in discovering a cheater or listen shows that promise you the same, please stop.
Take a moment of your time and think; why are you really looking for signs of cheating in your relationship? Think of this question carefully and you’ll see that you are losing no matter if he or she is cheating or not.
It doesn’t matter if your partner is cheating on you, it matters that you are thinking of it and you can’t concentrate on anything else. You are giving him a power that doesn’t belong to him/her. Your power! You are giving him/her the power to be in charge of your happiness and no one can be responsible for your happiness, but you. You are making yourself happy or miserable and no one else. It is your choice! You are the master of your life, not someone else.
If you know, for sure, that your partner is cheating on you, do something about it. If you are not sure, you are just suspecting that he/she is cheating and this suspicion goes on and on and on, you have a problem and it doesn’t involve your partner. Believe it or not, but you are just using your partner as a blindfold so you can hide from yourself the things form your life that really bother you.
The problem is that you, somehow, deep inside, believe that you are not worth his/her love and by that you actually give him/her right to cheat on you and to reject you. Think: what makes you feel so insecure about yourself?
Maybe, you weight few pounds more than you should or you don’t have blue eyes or you are not successful as you would like to be… whatever problem you hide inside of your soul, that makes you feel insecure about yourself, now it is time for you to discover it. This is your real problem!
By taking your very first step in resolving your real problem, your self esteem will grow and you’ll feel great knowing that you are doing something good for yourself. All the power that you have been giving to your partner, by making him/her in charge of your own happiness or misery, will be yours again and you’ll be free to love and to trust again.
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