Relationship Advice Column: How Do I Find Love?
23 July 2007If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!
Whenever I hear someone ask “How do I find love?” question, the first thing that comes to my mind is:” Why do you need love?”
If you are desperate to find love, it means you are lonely and you feel incomplete and with these two feelings you tend to be very, very tolerant, more tolerant than it is healthy for you, when you choose a partner.
We are all sometimes lonely, but I must tell you; loneliness is very tricky. When we feel lonely and receive attention from potential partners, we can easily make mistake and take it as love, even if this person doesn’t meet our basic emotional needs.
When you find yourself searching for love, it would be better to go out with your friends or go some places where you can find some new friends. Trying to find new friends and social networking is much healthier then finding love. When you are looking for friends, you are probably going find some and some of them might become a love of your life, but when you look for love, you are rushing in and there is good chance that you are going to have a heart break.
Finding love is a process, it has its steps and missing a step or two can cost you more than you are able to pay. These are steps everyone should make in order to find true love:
- Meet someone you are attracted to
- Get to know him/her by becoming friends to see if you are having any common interests in life. Remember, you should feel very comfortable with who you are when you are with this person.
- In case you have common views in life and you still feel attracted to each other, start dating and have fun.
- If you both have urge to spend more and more time together, get into serious relationship and stop seeing other people.
- Become the best friends and true support to each other.
- You are both thinking about living together or marriage.
- Congratulation! You have found your true love!
Take time! Don’t rush things in! Don’t try to find love, let love finds you.
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